Monday, March 23, 2009
Mistakes
Sometimes we must understand that life is a journey, never a destination.
If it is indeed a destination, we might as well die now. Why bother with all this intermediate nitty-gritties?
If life is a journey, well, a journey is a process for us to learn, as nobody is born the nice, perfect, finished end product.
If life is not a destination, then the process to reach the numerous destinations in life takes time.
Some people reach them faster, some people reach them slow.
However, in this globalised hence competitive world, as we grow older and older, we often look for the immediate solution, the perfect end-products, often neglecting the process which learning needs.
We get impatient (with ourselves and others), we get frustrated (with ourselves and others), and we get judgmental (with ourselves and others).
The problem with many (including myself) is, in this fast-paced world, we often only see the destination as our aim, and totally forgot about the process in between.
The only way to reach the destination fast is not to blame yourself, feel sorry for yourself, be angry with yourself or even judge yourself.
It is to face the errors you made head on, and move swiftly never to repeat them.
Mistakes are the best platforms for people to learn, and while people know it, they seldom learn it.
Normally it's about defending yourself from people's comments, feeling disappointments, feeling anger, but seldom it's about reflection, learning, creating new actions if similiar scenarios occur etc.
Hence, the worst kind of mistake-maker in the world would be
1. You know something's wrong.
2. You claim that you KNOW what mistakes were made
Yet..
3. You defend yourself on the causes of the mistakes (and label them as legitimate reasons)
4. Cos you keep defending yourself (despite claiming to KNOW that it was a 'mistake'), you never really did change
5. Since there was not much change, number 1 comes again
6. You get frustrated.
7. Then repeat 1-6, especially point number 6.
Well, as I've said, like is a journey, never a destination. Everyone makes mistakes, that's just life, that's just human. It's how many times u get on point 7 that determines how much frustration you have, I guess.
If one keeps getting to point 7, well, I guess it would be better for one NOT to know his/her mistakes. At least in this case, one lives in the bliss of one's ignorance.
"They are just JEALOUS of my ACHIEVEMENTS, that's why they hate me." I quote, with a large LOL.
I'm lucky that I'm willing and able to face mistakes, dust myself off, and avoid making them again. Well, I think after attaining some age, I realised that life is a journey, never a destination. I learn to face mistakes a lot more positively after making them, and as long as they are not irreversible, personal pride always make me want to do a lot better to 'compensate' for past mistakes.
Well, again why am I typing this? I dunnos.
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