Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Communication
Communication is a 2-way thing. One person must give, another must receive. To make the conversation engaging, each person should take turns to play the giver and receiver role.
No matter how excited you are, you should learn to stop dominating the conversation with whatever you want to share. Not in that kind of tone and speed which makes it so hard for people to understand and digest. Bad quality of giving, and.. where's the receiving?
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Sunday, September 26, 2010
Labels
As a son, I should be
- not be calculative about what father has given me
- fillal
- able to understand father's 'difficulty'
- accomodating to father's irresponsibility
- happy to perform my duties as a son
As a guy, I should be
- understanding
- accomodating
- strong pillar of support
- the person who worries about finances and make life adjustments to achieve them
As a person, I am
- logical
- devoid of emotions
- unsympathetic towards emotions
It's tiring living these labels.
Sometimes, I just hope to 'be myself'
Be myself! What a lofty ideal. Can you eat a lot, don't exercise, yet not get fat? Can you slack a lot, don't work, spend a lot, yet have a lot of money? Can you slack at work, do everything at your own pace, yet have good increments/bonuses? Can you be nice to someone when you feel like it, yet the person doesn't take it for granted? Can you not help your father, and he will suddenly be the disciplined and responsible person? Can you exercise your right to emo as and when you like it, yet others will be always there to accomodate at your whim and fancy? Can you go out and have fun during the weekend yet have sufficient time to rest and recover? Can you have sufficient 'we' time yet have sufficient 'me' time? Can you be shit and scold vulgarities at everyone as and when you like it, and people will smile back at you as if you're the best person on planet Earth? Can you do the minimum yet others respect you as if you're the model worker?
While others can 'be themselves' and can give all the reasons/excuses in the world, I can't. I need to strictly follow the guidebook of labels. That's really nice to know.
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8:06 am
No matter how much you plan, how much you work, how much you earn, there's always someone else to take it away from you.
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1:06 am
Sunday, September 19, 2010
Solve
How I love about people who keep whining over something yet do nothing to solve it.
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11:36 am
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
哈佛圖書館的二十條訓言
哈佛圖書館的二十條訓言：
1.此刻打盹，你將做夢；而此刻學習，你將圓夢。
2.我荒廢的今日，正是昨日殞身之人祈求的明日。
3.覺得為時已晚的時候，恰恰是最早的時候。
4.勿將今日之事拖到明日。
5.學習時的苦痛是暫時的，未學到的痛苦是終生的。
6.學習這件事，不是缺乏時間，而是缺乏努力。
7.幸福或許不排名次，但成功必須。
8.學習並不是人生的全部。但既然連人生的一部分―學習也無法征服，還能做什麼 呢？
9.請享受無法回避的痛苦。
10.只有比別人更早、更勤奮地努力，才能嘗到成功的滋味。
11.誰也不能隨隨便便成功，它來自徹底的自我管理和毅力。
12.時間在流逝。
13.現在流的口水，將成為明天的眼淚。
14.狗一樣地學，紳士一樣地玩。
15.今天不走，明天要跑。
16.投資未來的人，是忠於現實的人。
17.受教育程度代表收入。
18.一天過完，不會再來。
19.即使現在，對手也不停地翻動書頁。
20.沒有艱辛，便無所獲。
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11:42 pm
Friday, September 10, 2010
Wet market
A visit on the 511 wet market near my house seems simple enough, but it triggered a lot of thoughts in the capacity I'm in now.
When I was less than 7 days into work, I was tasked to research on the different forms of markets around the world, and what exactly makes our Singaporean kind of wet markets so unique and special.
I'm not sure if many people knows, but Sheng Shiong bought over 5 + 1 wet markets at the last quarter of last year, and rumours have it that they plan to convert them into supermarkets.
As I search through our news data base, I came to know that this led to a flurry of forum letters to the Straits Times, defending the sights and sounds of the wet markets. Some even term it as a cultural heritage in Singapore, something we should preserve even if it doesn't make economic sense.
My workplace is heavily involved in this issue, and this led to some thoughts about something I know is there, but I seldom bother to go visit it.
I remember when I was young, marketing was a daily affair. As an obedient (albeit reluctantly) small boy, I followed grandma to the wet market, almost every single day. I remembered the uncles and aunties from every single stall, and whenever we needed to buy any fresh foods, the wet market naturally comes first to our minds.
When I grow up, I kinda forgot its presence. Whenever I needed to buy something, I tend to go to the SS supermarket, which has like almost every foodstuff I need. I knew that this supposedly cheap supermarket caused the unemployment of my neighbour who used to sell fishballs at the adjacent 538 market, but as a young person, this thing just happens.
As I grow older, I tend to appreciate the older things more, and change less. Actually, I don't know. I don't really shop at the wet market, but somehow, this is the place where the neighbouring uncles and aunties come together on their daily rountines, to chit chat and bitch about the latest food prices. New estates with foodcourts and supermarkets (the model which my unit manages) just doesn't seem to have that same 'life' as good old Bedok, with hawker centres and wet markets.
The nostalgic me wants them to stay. However, the young me doesn't what to shop there. The economic me knows that if we do not shop there, they will cease to be economically viable, hence a gradual decline.
Nostlagia, nostlagia. Is viewing things from outside the glass panel possible to make something stay? I'm not so sure. As I grow older, the more I am afraid of change. Cos deep down I know, if we keep phasing out old things, sooner or later it will be our turn.
I'm glad that for now, 511 market stays...
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6:35 pm
"Huh your 3rd month here already?"
Yes, yes, 3rd month, and it means 3rd pay day woots!!!
Was really feeling lousy on Monday. Yes I fail my Ippt on saturday, and I felt like shit since then.
Hand ache, chest ache, whole body tired, and shin muscle injured. Strange as I've been training vigourously.
Then suddenly I feel the signs of flu. Warm inside, cold outside. But I felt that I can stay through work, and I did, for the whole week. Plus drinking plenty of water + peeing, and sleeping like 9+ every night. Super disciplined.
So happy that the week has just past like that, and it's the long weekend. Now I'm still feeling it abit, but better already.
Went through my first presentation relatively smoothly. A sign of a good one, I hope, when not so many questions are asked.
Ok again I'm staring at the amount owed for tuition, really can't wait to bring it down to 0.
Hope to really have a good rest for this long weekend, and hope that i can recover fully.
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7:32 am
Saturday, September 04, 2010
Thought vs time
Many thoughts, too little time, too little energy to blog them down.
2 months in this organisation already, so far so good.
Have been really busy for the past few days, but I have been able to move some things forward, so, it's good.
Time passes faster when you have things to do.
And as a victim of efficiency, after everything is cleared or done, I become idle again, and again it's a struggle for time to pass.
Gonna have a small but important presentation next week, my debut in a serious work environment.
Hope I'll do well.
4-day week next week! Great timing of Hari Raya, on a Friday.
Means that PAYDAY comes on the 9th instead of the usual 12th.
Can't wait to clear my study loan, can't wait to have a less financially tight situation, really.
I'm really impatient.
And so, my bond has 9.something months left only already :D
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