Monday, June 21, 2010
Exchange
Between any relationship, be it bf gf, parents, friends etc, it's an exchange.
And being in an exchange means that both sides of the relationships give and take.
You give some, you take some.
However, it isn't that simple.
I've read a leadership book before, it said that a leader shouldn't assume his followers to want exactly the same things as him. Different people are motivated by different things, so to be a good and motivational leader, you'll need to know what each individual wants, and cater to their needs to motivate them.
The same goes for human relationships. Before you get what you want, you have to give what people want from you. In friendship, what people want (in basic terms) is simple. Company, the feeling of fun and good when with this person. If you aren't able to offer these very basic of feel-good factors to others, you cannot develop your friendship with people, and what's more talk about the advanced stuff - sharing of deep inner thoughts, mutual support etc.
Trying to skip the basics - making people like to hang around you - and wanting to get the advanced stuff (emotional support), then not getting it - is like being lazy to walk and lamenting that why you can't run - utterly stupid, but not so obvious to some.
To summarise: Before you get what you want, you must give what others want. Before you want the advanced stuff, you need to fulfill the basics.
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